When faced with other people’s conflicts, our first instincts are often to take sides, investigate to determine who’s right or wrong, or maybe suggest solutions to end the struggle. In most cases, mediators do NOT do any of these things. Instead, mediators assume the unique role of assisting the parties experiencing conflict. Rather than investigating the participants’ claims, passing judgment, or telling the participants what to do to end the dispute,
MEDIATORS USE THEIR SPECIALIZED COMMUNICATION and PROBLEM SOLVING SKILLS to help the parties understand each other’s positions and interests. They help to clarify the important issues, and help the parties come to a resolution that everyone can live with more peacefully!
1. Major Decisions include:
2. Daily or Everyday Decisions are routine decisions that include minor medical treatment, bedtimes, homework, chores, selection of clothing, or normal daily activities.
3. Emergency Decisions are of an urgent nature. They affect the health and safety of the children and must be made before it is possible to contact the other parent.
Imagine a couple who fell in love at 18, married at 20, and have 3 children together. They each have assets and property from inheritance. The husband co-mingled his inheritance assets and the wife did not. They have a house and assets together - and they have a dog they both love dearly. At this point they are 40 and feel the marriage is irreconcilable. There are complicated issues and this is literally the worst time in their life. Neither has ever worked through this sort of situation. Her lawyer is $220/hour and his lawyer is $180/hour - things seem to be getting more heated which is hurting the couple, the couple’s parents, their friends and family, and most importantly, the THREE MINOR CHILDREN.
A neutral mediator can help sort through these difficult issues. As you might imagine, they could easily save thousands of dollars and lots of emotional heartache by the successful use of a mediator. This will help the couple get along better during this difficult time and get back to their normal living patterns more quickly. In turn, this will help the friends and family, and most importantly, the three minor children. THE SIMPLE ACT OF USING A MEDIATOR ALMOST ALWAYS SAVES PRECIOUS TIME, MONEY, AND HEARTACHE FOR ALL THE PEOPLE INVOLVED!
HAMPTON MEDIATION in Saint Joseph provides consultation in English and Spanish --
by appointment only!
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